Discerning when to firmly say “no” is an important aspect of spiritual growth. As followers of Christ, we are often faced with decisions as we stand our ground on not conforming to worldly expectations or desires.

A great example of this is found in the life of Joseph, whose story is one of integrity particularly when he faced a direct temptation to sin against God. Look at Joseph, a young man sold into slavery by his brothers, who rose to become the overseer in Potiphar’s house. This however brought about a profound test of character and faith.

Genesis 39:7-12

New King James Version

7 And it came to pass after these things that his master’s wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, “Lie with me.”

8 But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “Look, my master does not know what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand.

9 There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”

10 So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.

11 But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside,

12 that she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.

Potiphar’s wife repeatedly tried to seduce Joseph. Despite his master’s wife’s persistent attempts, Joseph refused. His refusal to yield to temptation, even when it led to false accusations and imprisonment, shows the strength of his commitment to God’s will over his gain. In these, turning to Scripture not only guides us but also empowers us to make choices that honor God.

While it is natural to want to please those around us, it is important as believers to remember that our ultimate goal is to reflect God’s will in our lives rather than seek approval from others. The balance lies in understanding that while it is okay to make people happy, our actions and decisions should not compromise our devotion to God. This is crucial because, at the heart of our faith, lies the understanding that our identity and worth are anchored in our relationship with God, not in the fleeting approval of people.

Dear believer, always remember that the love of God surpasses all understanding. It is this divine love that guided Joseph and should guide you to discern when to prioritize His will over the desires of others or yourself. Here are some steps to ensure that as believers we say no to the things that are against our beliefs and values.

1. Prioritize God’s will: Remember that your commitment to God should be above all human relationships. Although your interactions with others are significant, they should always reflect your primary allegiance to God. Just as Joseph did, we must seek first the kingdom of God, as promised in Matthew 6:33 – “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

2. Be cautious of misguided influences: It is essential to discern between guidance that aligns with God’s will and advice that may lead you astray. Not all counsel you receive will be rooted in truth, much like the deceptive words of Potiphar’s wife were not.

3. The Bible should be your guide: Scripture is your compass for making decisions that honor God. Through the Bible, you gain the wisdom and strength to stand firm in your convictions, as Joseph did. Psalm 119:11 reinforces this: “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.”

Choosing to say “no” is a testament to your faith and an act of obedience to God if it does not align with your values and beliefs. It involves relying on the wisdom and truth found in Scripture, enabling you to make decisions with boldness.

The Christian journey has moments where saying “no” is not just an option but a necessity for spiritual growth. Your identity in Christ and commitment to God’s will are your guiding principles, helping you navigate the expectations of others with grace and courage.

Remember, your worth is defined by God’s love and your obedience to Him, not by the approval of others.

Prayer Point:

Lord, we seek Your wisdom and guidance in every decision we face. Empower us to say “no” when it does not align with Your will, and help us to prioritize Your desires above all else.